All About Coaching
What do we "do" in coaching?
Think about life coaching as really amazing discussions designed to go after clarity. It's a collaborative process where we're trying to help you ultimately figure out how to have a better experience in life that feels more in line with your values and how you hope life might feel. Everything is centered around honest discussions that are geared at getting at the heart of things. We're trying to understand what your values are, what things currently in your life do and do not line up with your values, what obstacles or challenges exist in your life, what opportunities are there - and when you start to get that clearer picture of your map, it helps you start to feel a greater sense of peace and excitement about what things are available to you to do differently, so your life feels more "you".
What it's like to work with me :
Kind, empathetic, intelligent discussions designed around helping figure out important things in your life. A collaborative and warm environment where it feels safe being your full self and speaking honestly about things. Kind and intuitive listening from me that helps inform important questions that can provide exciting insight. Helping you identify and realize healthy experiences based on your values, and also importantly recognizing experiences in your life that don’t honor those values. Remembering things you’ve said previously and making connections to help create understanding. Work that feels deeply individual and unique to you. Being able to frame lots of floating pieces of info into simpler and understandable ideas. Reflecting back and celebrating wins and progress we’ve made together. Discoveries which feel nice to make and give you a good sense of peace. A positive energy where it feels like we’re trying to build and move forward in a good way.
I often use words like practical when discussing my view of coaching and that's intentional :) I'm not a big fan of saying broad ethereal things like "Level Up". To me those are like empty calories, where you're like "Ok! I'm in ...So now what” :) This work done correctly, is deeply individual. And we're trying to intuitively get at your own unique hopes, preferences, desires, challenges, fears, even undiscovered things. These are honest and collaborative discussions meant to feel substantive and meaningful to you :)
Coaching vs Therapy
Therapy's focus can often be to take someone from non-functioning to functioning, whereas Coaching is focused on taking someone from functional to optimal. Therapy can be a lot more about looking backwards, and while coaching definitely does spend time in the past, it's with the intent to help you figure out where you can go in the future. I also think coaching can feel a lot more warm and collaborative and less impersonal than therapy sometimes does.
What Coaching Isn't
It's easy to think of "sports" when you hear the word coach, thinking of someone who gives you wise instruction. Life coaching is actually quite different, where we're doing important work to help equip you to find your own answers. You're the best expert on your own life, and coaching is intended to help increase your perspective and better see the values at play and obstacles in front of you in your current situations in life, so it can help you come to your own decisions that feel right to you.
Choosing A Coach
I think the most important thing in looking for a coach is to find someone you feel really comfortable with and have good chemistry with, and feel at ease being honest with. Coaching doesn't work without feeling safe to be honest, and I think having someone you feel safe being yourself with and having deeper and honest in-depth discussions with is really important. You also want to find someone who's an amazing question asker - someone who has really strong intuitive listening abilities and can track with you, and can intuitively sense the right type of powerful questions to ask that can lead to really incredible moments of realization. And I think finding someone who you can tell genuinely cares and is there to help - that makes a big difference.
Martha Beck once told us in class, coaching's not a science, it's definitely an art form. And I 100% agree with her on that :)
About Me
I'm NYC based, previously have had corporate careers at an ad agency and working with a magazine, have always been interested in personal development and The Alchemist, Marianne Williamson's "A Return To Love", and Jane Roberts "The Nature of Personal Reality" are some of my favorite books. Huge GoT, Harry Potter and Star Wars fan. Big fan of England, and British humor and West Ham United are two of my favorite things. But most of all, people are my favorite thing in life and it feels nice to be able to have a career where I can help others in meaningful ways in their lives.